As for the ladies involved in this mess (most of them anyway), I maintain an extremely low level of sympathy for them as well. First of all, most of you are members of his church, which means that you were well aware of the fact that he was married. You come into the house of God, proclaiming to love Him, shouting Hallelujah and dancing around, all the while focusing on your true intention of nailing the pastor. Regardless of how smooth he came across, or how humble he seemed to be, adultery is adultery and sinful lust is just that...and God sees all...spoken and unspoken. Now I am not claiming to be perfect by any stretch of the imagination, but this is most certainly a situation I would have run from! One woman responded saying that she met him online and that he was just so engaging and portrayed all of the qualities that any God-fearing woman wanted. He made you want to give it up to him on the 3rd or 4th date, is what she said. Really? Red Flag!! A true man of God would not be trying to get into your panties, and if you let him then there are demons you have to deal with! Now maybe this particular young lady wasn't a member of his church, and since she met him online, maybe she didn't know he was married, etc..., so yes, I have a little more sympathy and compassion for her, but come on ladies...we have got to make better decisions and start caring more for ourselves. I mean if we don't, who will?

What say you?
Sidebar...this was almost the plot for one of my next books! Wow...then I hear about it in the news!
First of all let me say I am not shocked at all by this man's behavior. We all have demons and sin that we have yet to overcome saved or not and evidently he has some major issues he needs to be delivered from. However, I expect more from a "Man of God"...Point, blank, period. I myself have been married to a "Man of God" who is humble, loved by all and knows the word of God, yet the entire 2 yrs we've been married he has cheated on me numerous times. So I can relate, thank God no diseases have been passed around. I finally made the decision after seeking and hearing from God that I couldn't deal with the behavior and the non regard to my feelings or the vow we made from this "Man of God" that I married. I'm currently going through a divorce. I stayed as long as I did because of the Word and what it says about divorce and the fact that I believe anything can be fixed with God & a willing individual. But clearly this is cause enough for his wife to leave, and God's word supports it. This type of behavior really bothers me, because I feel that if you represent and stand for God then your life and walk should show it in every way. It's too many people walking around claiming to be Christians who love God with titles in the church whose life don't reflect our God or his word. We've got to do better.
ReplyDeleteI am sorry that you had to endure such an emotional hardship. I hope that you are learning to forgive - for your own sanity - and can move on in all of the blessings God has for you. It's crazy how people are comfortable using the name of God to deceive others!
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